Couples often think about sex but I find they rarely discuss sex in detail. The book that is sweeping the NY Times Best Seller list changes that roadblock between you and your partner. Reading the book isn't required. You can simply use the reviews and summaries to engage your partner in avid talk about what people find desirable, what people find kinky and whether you agree. You can even begin to ask "what fantasies do you have?"
One of the most powerful elements of "50 Shades of Grey" comes from the negotiated relationship between the lead characters. So many times we enter into our partnerships without knowing exactly what we want or what our partners need. This can make for some unhappy let downs and relationship dissatisfaction. The good news here is you can open a dialogue with your partner about what makes each of you feel heard, loved and safe.
Anastasia Steele and Dorian Grey, the lead characters, talk about their needs and desires as each situation presents new and interesting opportunities. Some of the sexy thoughts are attractive, and some are frightening or unappealing. If your partner knows that you like gentle words and strong hands you are more likely to get the things that make your heart pound. That's got to be a good thing!
You might even share the novels in the series with your partner and use the racy parts as spice for your marriage!